Ermanno Bergami

For brave people in search of their courage

Emotional Courage Therapy

As human beings we are shaped by the relationships in our lives. We feel rejected when loved ones leave us, or cut off contact, either temporarily or permanently. We are filled with fears, especially if we have grown up in the midst of abuse and tension and insecurity.

The first pain as human beings we are aware of is the pain provoked in us by other people when they hurt us. This is normal. However the deeper we look the more we become aware of another level to our pain -the pain we recreate ourselves.

We are in pain when:

We cannot defend ourselves even in situations that are an affront to our basic rights
When we are afraid to feel hurt and loss, lest it overwhelm us
When we keep our belly and chest tight and cannot act
When our fears cripple our expression and rob us of the life we can have
When we cannot sit with pain or joy and we deny the yearnings of our heart
When we are aware of repeating habits which do not work for us but we feel unable to change them
When we are involved in the unending challenge to improve ourselves yet the only voice we seem to be able to hear is the one telling us, who we are is not good enough and we should always do more and be more
When we struggle so much in surrendering and accepting our reality
When we have no faith in positive outcomes and struggle as if we were alone in the universe, without faith in a Force and Power greater than ourselves

It is a long list and everyone can add his own individual experience of fear and hurt.

No other person can fix our wounds, heal our sorrows and take away our fears. Nobody can respond exactly to all our needs, not even a loving partner. Others can enrich and encourage us, love us, but we have to learn how to take care of ourselves and build our own strength.

We can only change ourselves and in integrity and courage we find the cure

Every tight muscle is a frightened muscle but we can release the fear stored in it. Each fear is the signal and the doorway for that specific action we need to take. We can stop the self-berating, take the risks we are ready for. and discover humour in our flaws.

These are the foundations of my therapy. I can accompany you in this brave journey. I have done it myself and I am still in it. I believe the best way to be of service is working from the heart to the heart.